Romance has been on my mind a lot recently. Not just thanks to Valentine’s Day but also due to several friends of mine wanting to rekindle the romance in their relationships. Spring is coming and the renewed energies remind us about the energy we had in our relationships.
In the discussions about how to rekindle romance, I noticed the same suggestion kept cropping up. ‘Go back to basics and remember what made you fall in love to begin with.’ That suggestion came up the most (paraphrased a touch but not by much). This was rapidly followed by suggestions to do little romantic gestures. It seems that no matter where you are in a relationship – whether at the beginning with all the hearts and flowers or thirteen years into it – you still have to go back to basics every now and again.
Let’s be honest, starting a relationship is frankly hard work. You get caught up in the ‘does he/she like me?’; ‘how do I impress them?’; ‘will they like this or that?’; and the ins and outs of it all are exciting and exhausting at the same time. We put lots of effort into figuring out ways to surprise, delight and enchant our new beau and can spend hours just wondering what to wear to go out with them.
Then, we settle down. We let things go a bit. We eat beans on toast because we are tired from our day and snooze in front of the television rather than chat. We’ve all done it. I know I have. Then suddenly you realise that you haven’t been out with your other half in a long time. You can’t remember the last time you gave each other a gift ‘just because’. And then what?
That’s when romance is key. Romance can revitalise a relationship. It isn’t just the chocolates and flowers, it’s the smile when they come in the door. The kiss on the cheek before they leave the house. Doing the teeny tiny little things that make them smile just because you can.
Every relationship needs its daily dose of romance. The sudden smile across the room and a feeling of light and joy in response. How do you get your daily dose?